They can be relationships with family, friends, or lovers. Webster’s Dictionary defines Convenience- the quality of being convenient or suitable. How to know you’re in a relationship of convenience. Here are some signs

1. In a friendship the person only comes around when you have something. Or needs u to do something for them. That friendship is toxic and u is most likely a friendship of convenience.

2. Family members can be just as toxic we all have that family member that you don’t here from unless it a need. Either to borrow something or need a ride somewhere. Sometimes u need to cut family members off.

3. In a romantic relationship you may or may not be dating the person but they come around when they want sex or someone to vent too. And depending on your feelings for said person it can be a long situation. But don’t let anyone make you a convenience. You deserve more than just being someone’s pit stop.

Well its seems to be a controversy within the LGBT community. Labels vs. No Labels a lot of lesbian women. Are “labeling” themselves as no labels. Which is still a label within itself. Anyway I am blogging about this particular subject. Because I myself choose to label myself. And it seems to be looked down upon. I label myself a fem. Because I have femine ways about myself. I don’t ever change the way I dress. I am who I am all day. You will see me wearing pumps,earrings, carrying a handbag. I don’t have a desire to wear boxers, sneakers, or a fitted. But I do date females that do wear those things. Yes, there is the arguement that. We’re all females what difference does it make. The difference is preference. I perfer to label myself. Does that make me less of lesbian…in my opinion no it doesn’t. But to the “no labels” consider it to be less than a lesbian. Because we’re all women and women shouldn’t have labels attached to them. I feel that if u don’t label yourself someone will. I have a say in what and who I am. Yes I am a lesbian and I am fem. With that said I am lesbian fem. With that being said I don’t judge anyone. Or what they do so all I ask. Is to not be prescuted. Over a simple label. Like really what is the big deal. Its just a word that people use to identify themselves. I feel as though people take things to seriously. I like women who are more aggressive than I am. I don’t want to be with anyone more fem than me. Sorry judge me if you want. But that’s my preference.

Well this is my first blog…if u have any topics u want me to blog about hit @that_dope_type @twitter.com.

my ex and i have had our share of ups and downs. she has broken my heart more times than i can even remember. she hasnt always been the best girlfriend. but she has been going through somethings. and she has needed me. against the advice of friends and family. i am helping her get through this crisis she is going through. did i mention that i have my own problems. that i have pushed to the side to help her out. through all of that she is still ungrateful and it pisses me off.